Handshaking 101

Whether you're going to a job interview or simply greeting someone, a good impression is sealed with a good handshake. It's an important form of nonverbal communication that establishes a friendly relationship. "The handshake speaks volumes," says Cindy Grosso, founder of the Charleston School of Protocol and Etiquette in Charleston, S.C. She points out that a bad handshake not only creates a bad impression but also is distracting. "Your mind immediately goes to the handshake, and you forget everything else," says Grosso. "You're focusing on that silly, wimpy handshake." Here are some tips for giving the best possible Shake.

1. Make sure your hands are clean and dry.
2. Stand with good posture. Both men and women should stand to shake hands.
3. Approach. Step toward the person and stand facing him or her squarely. Make eye contact and smile.
4. Wait for the higher-ranking person to extend his or her hand. If he or she doesn't, it's OK to wait a moment and then extend your right hand.
5. Use a firm (not vicelike) grip. If your grip is too loose, your hand will feel like a dead fish.
6. The right grip is palm to palm, web to web.
7. Use the other person's name in greeting or acknowledging him or her.
8. Shake. You'll feel a natural rhythm. Pump hands about three or four times-there's no hard-and-fast rule.
9. Release. Don't pull away. When you feel a natural pause, you can release your hand.